Monday, June 18, 2007

Colours of life

The couple wore a white outfit for the first session and a maroon lenga suit for bride and kurta with shawl for the groom...except there was no dancing and fresh petals like in Bollywood movie.. the lenga suit was quite heavy and need to be wear properly, during my time, I had to asked hubby to hold the long heavy veil for me. Some lenga suit could easily weight almost more than 15kg inclusive of the cloth weight as well as the embroidery..that exclude all those bling bling that we need to wear or parade..three or four layer necklace, at least three bangles for each hand, few 916 ring and diamond head gear, earing..bla ..bla

The original lenga suit that Madhuri Dixit had to wear in Devdas is almost 30kg, but because she have to dance, twirling, spinning..they changed the outfit to something similar but lighter.

But no matter how heavy it is I like to wear it..on that day only :-)
In India, in Kolkata to be precised, they normally wear something brighter and loud especially red and green, lots of jewellery and flowers, jasmine and rose as head gear for the groom. Since it is a match make, the groom have the previliged to request a dowry be it in a form of money, motorbike,..or whatever the bride's family could afford. And the day the bride leaving her family's house she will be accompanied by her stuff that include her pots,pan,dinner set, mattress, mat..etc...

Back to Penang..they still follow the tradition of giving all those stuff but no longer practised by all family especially when they married someone outside their circle or community. Mamak's wedding in Penang normally held at any community centre, club or hall due to the increasing of their populations .. :-) when one family hold a wedding their guest list are long and that only their friends and neighbours. They will refer to a book which I call a family book which we could find names, address and which family they belong to..they are more than 50 family could be more than 100 or more suku sakat.. My MIL is Cheyen, but my FIL is from Benggali from Kolkata, so we are referred as Cheyen, there are some other names but I could not recall..

For this wedding we had a great time but only last for few hours since I had to register at a new place in KL the next day. So the last two weeks was spent attending introduction course on government policies and procedures as well as ice breaking session.

This is what we made during the ice breaking session, an alien made of sticks, masking tape and newspaper...ooh we also had a chance to perfromed, my group had this P.Ramlee song..Aci-aci buka pintu ..we sang and act..a sketch..I was the owl...but sorry no photo taken.

Good things comes in so many ways..the wedding, the baby, a new this time around I can look at my office 24/7 from my balcony, and be at home by 5.15pm..isn't life is beautiful...Alhamdulillah...

Sunday, June 10, 2007

What's in a name..Tag

Exclusively for Simah who tagged me... :-)

One of the important thing when we are expecting a baby is of coz a 'name'..whether we want to name her after her parents, grandma..favourite aunty or any celebrity..and as Muslim we will find one that have an Islamic value.

We were excited back then..I was given total freedom to choosed the name, and Simah was one who I refered and even asked a list or Turkish name..

We don't know the I ended up looking for boys name..I wish that if Allah gave me a boy, his name will start with Mohamed..Mohamed Hadif...similar to his abah's name..and I like the meaning as well - Hadif - one with a goal

Some said that how big or how our tummy looks like could give an indication of the most people said maybe this is a boy..but some said its a girl is on the way

Her name was selected at a very last minute...I want a name that represent both of us with a soft touch and a name that sounds Arabic and a little bit of Hindi ..'Sufiya Humaira'..SH is a combination of our name, Sufiya is something related to Sufism, I want her to have a strong grip on religious..besides it sounds quite soft, and for Humaira..I always like a name with a letter R, so that we pronounce it sounds nice, Humaira means white and red..or 'putih dan merah bak delima' as our Phophet (saw) called his wife Aishah

In Mission Kashmir the character's name is Sufiya played by Pretty Zinta..what a coincidence..I like her and that movie about terrorist..she's pretty :-) and cute

One morning I did a test, I rubbed my tummy and called 'Mohamed Hadif..'..long silent, no respond...'Sufiya Humaira...'..ooh she started kicking and moving as if she was saying hello, from that moment I believed that I was going to have a baby girl, but still kept it to myself, can't be too excited..
Alhamdulillah when she was born, that name fits her well..her Bhod Babu (big uncle)in Calcutta told her Dada (Sufiya's grandpa) that her face is pinkish ..or as what they said 'rose colour' match her name.
Everyone's name has been given by Allah long before we were born