...Just an outsider

Remember my friend from primary school, F...who is having a problem with her husband..? I was surprised when we smsed weeks ago..I planned to meet her during my stay in Alor Setar...maybe she could visit my newborn..and have a chat about her life...surprisingly she too will be in the same shoe...her due date will be around 21st June..few days before mine....

All weddings are similar, but every marriage is different.
-John Berger-

I thought that she had enough of him, of his wild attitude, womanizer !!...but I was wrong..we the outsider could only give advice, and as an outsider, we don't know the real situation, the real pain and how much do they hate and love each other...maybe I don't understand her and her complicated life..it is easy for us to be judgemental but for her, it might be really hard to just walk away from that mess and pretend like nothing happen..and just go on with her life without a husband..and raising two son alone is not a small matter...

Some women choosed to keep their sadness to themselves not becoz they just can't share it with us, but maybe for the sake of their child..

I've seen a child without a father growing up with no father figure to look up to..no one to tell which is right and which is wrong..no one to join his taekwando tournament...no one to share his thought... it's hard for him, and of coz the mother feels the same way too..

But having another baby with that kind of husband...? I don't know what to comment..maybe I should just accept the fact that they are still trying to mend their life...I'm just the outsider....

Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins.
-Langdon Mitchell-
Sometimes..marriage is just like this cactus..nice to look at..but it hurts...